Emily is a Sex Educator, an expert on women’s sexual well-being, healthy relationships, and the prevention of sexual violence and harassment.
If her name sounds familiar, you may know her from her best selling book, Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that will Transform your Sex Life, or various TED talks. (links below)
(She also has a recent book with her sister Amelia called, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle.)
So much thought provoking, life changing stuff in here for women and anyone else who has ever had sex, might have sex or born from someone having sex!
What did we talk about??
How cultural narratives have changed over time, what it teaches us right away when someone assigns us as a boy or girl, how it has lied to us and how it is helpful for us to recognize that!
What do we do now? Emily shares her garden metaphor to help us think about that.
Desire is at the center of sex in many discussions
Pleasure… that is what we should be using as a guide.
Pleasure is the Measure!
Understanding Arousal Non-Concordance
This isn’t something we understand in our culture well.
How that lack of that understanding, and believing, has set the course to women not being trusted to know what they want. “You say no but your body says yes.” used to place blame in sexual assault cases and in relationships.
Emily talks about how we experience this.
You are normal… and… you not knowing you are normal… is TOTALLY normal!
How do couples sustain a good sexual connection over decades?
Emily talks about the few simple things they have in common and do to maintain that.
What we can do to re-connect.
She shared a difficult time in her own life and marriage that she walked through pulled her and her husband closer together…
Why the 6 second kiss and 20 second hug!
Emily Mentions
Peggy Kleinplatz – Sex Therapist
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peggy_J._Kleinplatz
Girls and Sex by Peggy Orenstein
https://amzn.to/31OsUrd
Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne
https://amzn.to/2ZhndAg
Emily’s Books
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
https://amzn.to/2KTZJfp
The Come as You Are Workbook: A Practical Guide to the Science of Sex
https://amzn.to/2Z4ICRZ
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
https://amzn.to/31RxtB3
Emily’s TED Talks
How Couples Sustain a Strong Sexual Connection for a Lifetime
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